Randomness… like seriously. Random even for me. And it’s grumpy.

Why does this bother me so?

So many “niche” groups don’t want to admit fail to realize that they are just as susceptible to society’s crap as the rest of society. We’re all exposed to the same bullcrap conditioning and it’s going to take conscious effort to break it.

Metal fans? ~It’s about the music! It’s just happenstance that bands with prominent members who are poc are rarely successful. It’s just happenstance that some fans of color are going to be looked at like they don’t belong in the concert crowd or get asked the entire history of music in order to be deemed an actual fan.~

Goth scene? ~It’s about the music! It’s just happenstance that most goth publications, blogs, images rarely feature poc…even after poc ask about it. It’s just happenstance that many think all brown/dark skinned poc look inherently silly in goth attire.~ 

ddlg spaces? ~It’s just happenstance that you *never* see poc littles unless you’re purposely, pointedly seeking them.~ This is actually what prompted this post today. A couple of lg’s of color expressed a sort of ‘otherness’ that they feel. When you go to any places that have images representing it, the images always show one group of people. One particular person said that whenever she’s talking to potential dd’s no matter how good the conversation is they will, without fail, disappear when they see her. She asked if she was a “bad little” because she’s black and that apparently runs people off. A few of the responses were (thankfully) saying things like “No, you’re not bad. Try not to let the crap discourage you.” But MOST of the responses were stuff like: ~It’s just happenstance that all the lg you see represented are white and the guys who left immediately upon seeing you were probably just reacting to the fact that you don’t look like what they’re used to seeing.~ Never mind that she’s attractive and hits all markers of what a “typical” lg looks like: petite stature, excessively pastel/girly, cute. The only difference is that she’s black. …

Why is it so hard to go: “race shouldn’t be any type of determinant, and it’s fucked up that it still is even in our small communities.” Why is it always a complete lack of acknowledgement of the fact that these smaller communities are not magically immune to the bullshit that comes from mainstream society?