“Obviously ‘bihet’ offends a lot of bisexuals, so we need to come up with a better term for bisexuals in m/f relationships.”
How about… and hear me out… this may sound crazy…. but you… continue to call us bisexual… because (and I realize this gets confusing for you people so read this next part slowly) it turns out we continue to be bisexual regardless of who we’re dating.
Tag: bisexuality
are you a space bi or a mythology bi
#why do y’all keeping wanting me to pick a side #this is why im bi in the first place (x)
Does this make me “extra” or “whiny”?
It really bothers me that friends and family refuse to go to pride with my niece and me.
Every year I invite friends and family to come to have fun. There’s a six hour concert + drag show + dance party on Friday and parade + whole shebang on Saturday (musical guests, artisans, food trucks, random bobbles for sale). It’s an all ages event (until after dark on Saturday).
None of our family members and none of my friends ever go. (Some of my niece’s friends show up).
My friends and family are the type of people who will go to any event downtown as long as it’s free/cheap and there’s food. But they won’t go to this. My nephew was adamant in saying that he “couldn’t go” because he’s worried that people may think he’s gay. We haven’t been able to have a talk to unpack all that yet. My dad ignores the fact that my niece and I are lesbian and bi. He asked “why do they need to celebrate being gay?” My response was “to celebrate that we aren’t being dragged behind trucks and being killed as much.” The room went silent, probably because I am not the type to talk back to my parents. My mom kinda muttered a “yeah” and my dad didn’t say anything but “oh” and I left their house. But other than that, I don’t face much blatant shit from my family and friends. There are several act like they “forget” that I’m bi, but there’s mostly no obvious hate from them.
I also feel I shouldn’t complain about them not going to pride because there are other lgbt+ who experience so much worse stuff from family and (supposed) friends.
But it bothers me. It hurts. It’s… I know no one has to come to any lgbt+ function or even to show they care, but omg it mean so much if they did. My family has its issues, so I don’t have a whole lot of hope for that. But I would’ve that at least a friend or two might show up…eventually…?
Bisexuals in committed monogamous relationships have not chosen a “side,” they have chosen a person.
Thank you and have a blessed day.
REBLOG if you think bisexuals (even ones in het relationships) are still part of the community and should be welcome at Pride
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today’s the day!
shout out to bi girls. as a lesbian, i can’t even THINK about marrying a man. you guys consider marrying men, not just men, STRAIGHT men. can’t relate. y’all are amazing.
not sure if bi positivity or male negativity
ah yes, the Dreaded Straight ™ man that bi women love
Since this person doesn’t know how positivity posts work, I’m gonna do it for them.
Shoutout to bi girls who like boys/married a man. I know you have to deal with a bunch of people saying you finally “picked a side” or people who claim you aren’t “LGBT enough”, you’re still bi. Your bf/husband is hella cute and so are you.
I keep having these little brain floofs today.
I’m trying to think if I’ve ever come across a fic that is about being bi. Specifically a character dealing with biphobia (internal and/or external).
It’s usually a big deal when a thing includes a bi character at all, and I know that ultimately the dream is to have being bisexual as just a part of who we are and not the driving force of our existence. But I was drifting through the interwebs today and had a thought. (for those on mobile, if you’re interested there’s a read-more below)
I couldn’t remember if I’d come across a story with a bisexual character and exploration of the ups and downs that can occur because they’re bi. I run into fics all the time where it’ll kinda be thrown out there so other characters don’t question the fact that Main Character is into Particular Dude, but that’s it. Just a means to get to the ship. (And in fics with female characters, I don’t know if it’s even mentioned in that capacity.) I know that all experiences are different, and fewer obstacles in fics can be great but I’m tired of running into “oh by the way they’re bi and this will never be mentioned again in the story” characters. I mean, to an extent I understand it. Unless we are specifically talking about sexuality (whether it be because it’s pride time, or because someone says something stupid, or because I’m carrying my purse with all my buttons, or I meet a woman for potential romantic purposes as the reveal is always met with varying reactions), it usually doesn’t come up in daily conversation. And, depending on the author, they may not want to write about that particular stuff. They may deal with it enough irl that they don’t want to deal with it in fiction too.
Still I’ll be on a fic binge and of the 47 I’ve read, maybe 8 even mention the word bisexual, and 5 of those *only* in the tags, and my brain will go: ‘ok this is sweet and the rest of this is fairly realistic but Pookie never encountered a single asshole? Not one? …Wait Sheena slow your roll. Story’s not about that. Pookie being bi is as about as important as the color of their shoelaces.’ And I frustrate myself. On the one hand, irl I don’t want it to be some really huge deal. On the other, sailing just ain’t that damn smooth. *exhales* I’m not happy with myself for wanting to read about bisexual characters dealing with the negatives, but I want to read it. Is it catharsis that I’m seeking?
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